If you watch porn that is queer and/or kinky, you have probably seen something featuring Madison Young.
photo from http://fuckyeahmadisonyoung.tumblr.com/
Since my early days as a porn fanboy, I have admired Madison Young’s work. She runs her own porn site (Madison Bound) as well as an art gallery in San Francisco (Femina Potens), which features female and transgender artists and focuses on blending the lines between sex and art. A noble and relatable cause, I think. She’s also just generally sexy and DIY and one empowered artsy & kinky motherfucker who still manages to pass as the “Girl Next Door”.
Madison Young with daughter Emma (image linked to on Twitter – uncertain of original source)
Madison has been publicly posting about her pregnancy and the birth of her daughter for quite some time, including the above portrait, which was featured in one of her art exhibits. Now, we’ve all heard the conservative arguments regarding breastfeeding in public. People have their opinions on it, but generally speaking, sex-positive folks are all for it. Right.
But apparently, one’s status as a porn star takes this documented moment in Life and automatically makes it pornographic. At least, that’s what today’s rants from @furrygirl seem to imply.
I understand @furrygirl to an extent. Her issue is consent, and that someone who is unable to give consent (an infant) is included in these photos. I see where she is coming from, and it’s true that Emma may grow up and feel uneasy about being in public portraits with her mother in any work under her porn persona’s name*. Emma may grow up to feel uneasy about many things. Most children do. My mother once tickled me after feeding me mushrooms, and it made me vomit. I haven’t been able to eat mushrooms since. These things happen. I would compare this portrait consent issue to anyone who posts photos of their children on Facebook. I know plenty of people who get upset over the photos they get tagged in. If your child grows up and realizes you posted an unflattering baby photo of them years prior, will they get upset? Perhaps. People still do it, and it’s not a Giant Issue.
@furrygirl’s other big concern is that not only is Emma in these photos without consenting, but that there is an infant and breastfeeding being displayed in pornographic imagery. This is where I have to disagree. In no way has anyone else, including Madison Young, regarded anything involving Emma as pornographic content. There are no baby photos on Madison Bound. These are tasteful portraits intending to capture an image of motherhood. Does Madison’s career automatically make every single thing she does pornographic? Is it inappropriate if she buys underwear around other civilians at the mall, for she may wear that underwear in pornographic material? Is it obscene by default if MADISON YOUNG, XXX GIRL NEXT DOOR KINK.COM PORN STAR buys lunch for herself at a restaurant?
(As I type this, there is a man singing “suck my dick all day until I cum in your mouth” down the alley outside my apartment. Speaking of public obscenity…)
Let’s say for a moment that I agreed with @furrygirl. That Madison Young’s breasts are inherently erotic and that posting any of her family business under her porn name is wrong and obscene and sexualizes her child. Sure. Even then, I absolutely cannot support @furrygirl expressing her opinion with phrases like:
“*Who* is interested in seeing videos and photos of a porn star breast feeding? It’s not ‘art’ fans, it’s creeps & pedophiles.”
“You are a revolting person. Your child will need so much therapy when she grows up and finds out how she was treated by you.”
(These quotes were directly in response to Madison Young.)
I can feel the Someone Is Yelling At Me On The Internet shame and frustration on Madison’s behalf. We’ve all been there to some extent, and it fucking sucks. But to have your parenting insulted that way is completely intolerable.
I support Madison Young. I support her art, I support her porn, and I support her family. But you know what? Even if I were in @furrygirl’s boat and thought she was fucking up her child’s life, I’d keep my damn comments to myself, because that is not my child and it is not my right to declare what is right or wrong for her.
Kick ass, Madison!
*Update - Madison Young replies: “thank you for your support. For the record Madison Young is not just my “porn” name its the name my partner calls me..my dentist, doctors, gym, the cafe I go to in the morning, etc”. So the fact that Madison Young isn’t even an exclusively porn-related personality makes it even more ridiculous to declare this work as “pornographic”. Essentially, the only sexual thing about this photo is that Madison Young has had sex. Psst…guess how babies are made.